What is your one true love

Happy couples have fun together. They share common goals, interests, and hobbies. They work together on projects that give their lives a sense of purpose and meaning outside of the relationship.

Common interests that can bring couples together include sports activities (walking, hiking), traveling, cooking, gardening or volunteering in the community. What makes these activities great for couples is that they increase feelings of self-worth and satisfaction. And we all know that when we feel good about ourselves—when we love and appreciate who we are as individuals—we have more love to give to others. For many couples, shared activities can improve communication, increase the amount of quality-time spent together, and offer playful relief from some of life’s less-than-fun activities such as paying bills and dealing with stressful work deadlines.

Here are some other things to look for in a healthy, long-term relationship:

  • Strong couples have their own friends and some mutual friends, too. True love means that you and your lover both have your own set of friends that you enjoy hanging out with. True love doesn't mean spending every minute of every day together; it means feeling secure enough that you don't feel jealous or needy if your partner spends time with his or her friends. On the other hand, having a group of mutual friends, such as other couples that you have something in common with, is also important to the success of your relationship.
  • Men and women in healthy relationships can spend time alone without feeling lonely. People who feel loved and secure don't need constant attention or companionship from their spouses or boyfriends or girlfriends. Each person in a healthy relationship should be able to spend time alone doing things that they enjoy without feeling the need to check in, or check up, on what the other person is doing.
  • If you're in a true love relationship, you’ll feel that your individuality is respected and honored. People who are in healthy relationships feel that their ideas, opinions, and experiences are appreciated. If one person is always trying to change the other person, there's little room for unconditional love in the relationship. The minute one partner tries to make the other fill a certain role or act a certain way, the relationship will start to feel strained.
  • True love means having the courage to let go of past hurts and being able to forgive one another when one of you makes a mistake. We all make mistakes in life. Some mistakes are bigger than others, but couples who are truly in love find ways to talk about those mistakes and move past them in healthy and productive ways. If one partner is constantly reminding the other person about a mistake from the past, the relationship won't survive.

Couples who find and sustain true love with one another are couples who are committed, right from the start, to treating each other with respect, kindness, and compassion.